Post by snowhawk on Dec 3, 2008 11:59:41 GMT -5
Well this is a subject I wanted to touch base on for awhile now, especially I am probably one of the biggest culprits of what I am about to say.
Speaking of myself, for those that don't know, I tend to be a hermit, a loner, a soloer for the majority of my gaming time. I have always played like this. Figuring out ways to do things myself etc. Kyria is constantly on me about being a hermit and very stubborn about asking for help. When I say constant, I mean at least 5-8 times a day. I don't think I am the only out there in the kinship who is like that. Now don't get me wrong, everyone has their play style and that's cool. Some like to solo, some love to group and some just love to be in the company of friends.
Let me say this, I have considered it an honour and a privilege to be in this kinship. Each person in the kinship has their unique personalities that they bring to the table, and I think that is wonderful. Will everyone get along all the time? Heck no, that's the way families work. Sometimes you get along and sometime you don't. But all in all, this has been one of the more rewarding kinships I have been/seen in LOTRO.
Yes yes, to my point. If there are quest that you need help with we need to be vocal about it. We need to throw it out there in kinship chat and if someone bites, great. I need to stop having the hermit mentality of "I can do it, and I don't want to disrupt others gaming by asking for help" There are some great folks who instantly will raise their hands to help out and you know who you are. Now I am not trying to get all mushy here, but I want each of you to know that I am available to help anyone, no matter the level, with anything. Sometimes I don't see it in kinchat, so shoot me a tell if you get no response. I know Thorn is the same way ( if he can stay connected long enough:) ). But on the other hand I know I need to do the samething. And this also helps to get EVERYONE involved with each other, and not just the same groups running together all the time.
Now I know friends like to run with friends and I absolutely have nothing against that. Just want to make that clear. I think as a kin, we are doing very well as far as help, relationships, and general activities. But sometimes people feel left out because A) They don't speak up or B) They just fly under the radar.
Both apply to myself. I don't feel left out so much as I don't really speak up. Is this good as an officer. Not at all, and I apologize for that. As an officer I should be "Leading by example", of which I haven't done since becoming one. But I am hear to rectify this problem.
Also if there are issues you have concerning the kinship, someone in the kinship, I would first suggest approaching the person and if that doesn't work out, then contact an officer to perhaps lend a hand. Again I really don't think we have this problem. But don't let problems fester and boil to where they blow up into something that they do not need to be. As our kinship grows, so will the differing in personalities.
I for one invite you to approach me at anytime if you have issue with me. If fact I would be more upset if you didn't, no matter how small it is, please let me know so we can nip it quick and move on. Seriously I will stop whatever I am doing to talk to anyone.
Well anyway, I hope you hear my heart here. The Helm is awesome, and I look forward to many days of adventuring with you.
Speaking of myself, for those that don't know, I tend to be a hermit, a loner, a soloer for the majority of my gaming time. I have always played like this. Figuring out ways to do things myself etc. Kyria is constantly on me about being a hermit and very stubborn about asking for help. When I say constant, I mean at least 5-8 times a day. I don't think I am the only out there in the kinship who is like that. Now don't get me wrong, everyone has their play style and that's cool. Some like to solo, some love to group and some just love to be in the company of friends.
Let me say this, I have considered it an honour and a privilege to be in this kinship. Each person in the kinship has their unique personalities that they bring to the table, and I think that is wonderful. Will everyone get along all the time? Heck no, that's the way families work. Sometimes you get along and sometime you don't. But all in all, this has been one of the more rewarding kinships I have been/seen in LOTRO.
Yes yes, to my point. If there are quest that you need help with we need to be vocal about it. We need to throw it out there in kinship chat and if someone bites, great. I need to stop having the hermit mentality of "I can do it, and I don't want to disrupt others gaming by asking for help" There are some great folks who instantly will raise their hands to help out and you know who you are. Now I am not trying to get all mushy here, but I want each of you to know that I am available to help anyone, no matter the level, with anything. Sometimes I don't see it in kinchat, so shoot me a tell if you get no response. I know Thorn is the same way ( if he can stay connected long enough:) ). But on the other hand I know I need to do the samething. And this also helps to get EVERYONE involved with each other, and not just the same groups running together all the time.
Now I know friends like to run with friends and I absolutely have nothing against that. Just want to make that clear. I think as a kin, we are doing very well as far as help, relationships, and general activities. But sometimes people feel left out because A) They don't speak up or B) They just fly under the radar.
Both apply to myself. I don't feel left out so much as I don't really speak up. Is this good as an officer. Not at all, and I apologize for that. As an officer I should be "Leading by example", of which I haven't done since becoming one. But I am hear to rectify this problem.
Also if there are issues you have concerning the kinship, someone in the kinship, I would first suggest approaching the person and if that doesn't work out, then contact an officer to perhaps lend a hand. Again I really don't think we have this problem. But don't let problems fester and boil to where they blow up into something that they do not need to be. As our kinship grows, so will the differing in personalities.
I for one invite you to approach me at anytime if you have issue with me. If fact I would be more upset if you didn't, no matter how small it is, please let me know so we can nip it quick and move on. Seriously I will stop whatever I am doing to talk to anyone.
Well anyway, I hope you hear my heart here. The Helm is awesome, and I look forward to many days of adventuring with you.
